April 2018

Last week’s post was inspired by a plant so I thought I would continue the trend this week. Recently a friend gave me a plant and it was in a small pot, and she explained that if I wanted it to grow really big, all I needed to do was plant it in a larger pot. This particular plant’s size is determined by the space it is given. I found this fascinating. Of course, I know the conditions that make plants grow but there are some plants that stay the same regardless of the size of their pots. What does this mean for us? Where we are planted and the conditions we are planted in will work together to determine our growth potentials and outcomes. Where are you planted? Have you figured out where you are meant to be? Is working in a large or small company the right thing for you? Do you have to be in the city or will an opportunity in a quieter town suffice? Being in the right place at the right time makes a great difference to our journey in life. We owe it to ourselves to figure this out and not be influenced by other people’s choices. Just because everyone is moving somewhere doesn’t mean it’s right for you. What company do you currently keep? Have a look at the people who are closest to you and see if the qualities they possess enhance your life and uplift you. Who are the five people closest to you and what do you learn from them? It is said some of your future accomplishments will be determined by the companies you keep today. Some of us surround ourselves with only those who agree with our viewpoints or tell us only what we want to hear, so we miss out on opportunities to be and do better. What are you feeding on? Too many people feed on a junk diet but expect a dream body, sadly it doesn’t work like that. I see people who are obsessed with their bodies and have low self-esteem, yet they spend their time watching reality TV shows and magazines that are filled with people who are perfectly made up. It’s no surprise they feel bad about themselves. In the same way, we can fill our minds with negativity or spend too much time with those who never see the good in any situation and lack an attitude of gratitude. It’s time to change your diet to achieve the life that you want. My plant is still in a small pot because I haven’t made time to go find it a larger pot and I know I am stifling it and limiting its potential. Some of us are doing that, not to a plant, but to our lives.

The inspiration for this week’s post came as I walked out of my front door and spotted one of my plants with little buds that signalled life. Through the winter months, my garden looks dire, dreary and uninspiring. Some plants look like dried twigs and it’s very tempting to give up on them. One year, I told my gardener that we needed to uproot a plant as it was dead but he smiled and told me it was still fine and we should just wait and see. He pruned the plant which was painful to watch and true to form, the hydrangea came back to life looking as beautiful as ever. This makes me think of our lives as being more than snapshots of events. We often see each other’s lives in moments or based on time periods and very rarely do we see the totality of a person’s life. When we look at ourselves and others, what do we see? Do we see a failure or a disappointment? Perhaps you see an unsuccessful career, a fading glory or a failing business? Maybe you see a successful career, marriage and family. Regardless of what we see, we need to know that life can be likened to reading a chapter in a book, watching a clip from a movie or seeing a plant in a particular season. So, what does this mean for me and for you? Don’t give up on yourself For me it means hope and it encourages me to never give up because what appears dead today can be alive tomorrow. This can be a dream, career, marriage, relationship, business and your faith. Even when my plants look dead, the potential for life is still there though hidden to my natural eyes. Don’t judge isolated moments or seasons It reminds me never to judge anyone based on the season they are in. Perhaps things aren’t great today, but it can and will turn around. We need to remember that a blip is just a blip and it doesn’t mean it’s over. Don’t give up on others I'm encouraged not to give up on others. We need to learn to see beyond an event in a person’s life, see past a poor choice or bad decision they’ve made and help them to see so they don’t give into despair. I am sure we all know at least one person who appeared to miss it big time based on a mistake but that’s not always the end of the story. I have seen teenage mothers go back to university and get their qualifications, wayward sons come back home and rebuild their lives, ex-convicts starting all over again and moving on to have successful careers and family. I have also seen broken relationships healed and restored.

As I consider what to write about this week, I am reminded of and excited by a quote from Mark Twain that says, "Continuous improvement is better than delayed perfection" My question to you today is, 'what are you doing to continuously improve yourself?' We are created to grow and move - spiritually, physically, mentally and intellectually. Physically, if you stop moving around, there will be consequences of weight gain, poor circulation, joint pains. Also, we have to keep learning and growing or we stagnate. I heard most successful people read every day including many CEOs. They are busy people, so there is something to be said for them making time to read despite their busyness. They read to improve themselves. Do you make time to continuously improve yourself or do you find enough reasons not to? For me the pendulum swings both ways. There are times when I am quite disciplined and make time to read or learn something every day and at other times, it all goes out the window. I'm the same person and my busyness is about the same so why do I move like a yo-yo between the two extremes of doing a lot and doing nothing at all? It all boils down to habit and the choices I make every day. Sometimes it’s that choice between watching a TV show and reading or getting on to social media and losing track of time. Other times, it’s a good choice of doing my brain training or spending quality time with family and friends. Making myself and others better is my passion and one of the enablers of this is learning new things everyday, applying my learning and seeking feedback from those around me. Here are some tips to help you on your journey to a better version of yourself. img_2447-2Have a social media fast one day a week and invest in yourself on this day Learn a new cuisine or language. The list of what you can do is endless. The important thing is that you switch off gadgets and switch on ‘Project You’.